I am three. I love my Daddy. I love to play. I love to ask my Daddy to play. Twenty-four hours a day. I love Daddy so much. I don’t value his free-time. If he is free, he should be playing with me. All the time. Play with me. Play with me. Play with me!!!!!!!!
This is pretty much what is running through my daughter’s head every second of the day. And it honestly makes devoting time to my writing hard. Sometimes (read: a lot of times) I give in to her and sit on the floor and play dolls with her, as every good Father should.
But then there are other days when my plot is pulling me in one direction and she is pulling me in another. And she pulls a lot harder. I don’t know if you have tried to concentrate on anything while a 3-yr-old is in the room, but it is next to impossible.
Honestly, some days it is frustrating as I lay my head down on the pillow not having written a single word.
But I am here to tell you it doesn’t have to be so black and white. You shouldn’t choose one over the other. I am passionate about my family and I am also passionate about my writing. Having an adoring wife and daughter at home doesn’t mean I have to give up on my passion to be a writer. If anything it should increase my resolve.
Having a family, or any responsibilities outside of writing for that matter means there will always be that tiny hand pulling you in the direction of the swing set or the start-up company or the free-lance art or owning your own business. There will always be something. It’s called life people.
But that isn’t a bad thing, it just means that you have to get creative (which isn’t so bad for writers is it?). For me it means staying up a little later to write, or pulling out my laptop on my lunch break at work. It means writing during times when I don’t think I can.
The best thing I have learned is that STARTING to write is the biggest hurdle when I am tired or worn out or irritated. The second I start typing out words, it is like a transformation occurs and I am instantly happier. And it is often in those difficult times that the words come out easier than when I have a whole afternoon to myself with nothing to do but write. Funny how that works huh?
It is the darnedest thing. So for those of you out there that have kids that run you ragged, let them. They are only young for so long. For those of you that aspire to own your own business, do it. You are already amazing and if the passion is really there, you will find the nook and crannies in life to sit down and write, because it is so so much better when you do.
😉 Ian and the Wordwraiths